11 Foursome Sex Positions That Everyone Will Enjoy, According to Sex Experts
Double the pleasure, double the fun.
THREESOMES MAY GET all the mainstream glory when it comes to group sex, but why not add one more person to the mix? Yes, we’re talking about foursomes—a double-the-fun configuration traditionally reserved for porn, but becoming increasingly common in your average bedroom. The beauty of the foursome is that it leaves a little more room for creativity and opportunities for mutual pleasure than threesomes, but is more intimate than a full-on orgy. With two times the limbs (and genitalia), foursomes can be both exciting and intimidating at the same time. Fortunately, there are certain positions specifically designed for foursomes, which can help eliminate the guesswork and minimize any awkwardness.
We know what you’re thinking. How exactly does one go about making a foursome happen? There are lots of different approaches. If you’re in a relationship, you might seek out another swinging couple that’s equally eager to experiment—or two single folks who are down to play. (These are the best apps to meet other swingers, FYI.) And of course, sometimes a foursome is just a pile of four strangers—say, people who meet at a sex party—looking for a wild romp.
However you go about assembling your horny quartet, experts agree that foursomes require communication and careful consideration to ensure a comfortable, safe, and positive experience for all involved. Amber Shine, an ACS-certified sex therapist and manager at XFansHub, recommends having an open discussion beforehand about fantasies, concerns, and boundaries.
Does one person like receiving oral, but not giving? Does one couple feel comfortable touching and kissing the other people involved but not having penetrative sex with anyone outside of their relationship? Is anal out of the question for anyone? How does everyone feel about using lube, or bringing sex toys into the mix? These are the types of things you’ll want to get a handle on before you start tearing your clothes off. Renée Denyer, an award-winning manager and sex educator with Sh! Women’s Store, also suggests establishing a safe word that everyone can use when they need to press pause because something isn’t feeling right—particularly if you plan to engage in BDSM.
The logistics of foursomes can obviously get a little complicated, so it’s a good idea to keep things moving and take turns in different positions to make sure everyone has a chance to get off.
“It’s okay to break off into pairs when you’re in a foursome—you don’t have to all be in constant contact with one another,” says Jess O’Reilly, Ph.D., Resident Sexologist for ASTROGLIDE. “And of course, some people will opt to play as a threesome while the fourth watches or takes a break. Regardless of how many people you’re playing with, check in with one another regularly. A simple, ‘do you like this?’ or ‘you good?’ can be a good start.”
If your sexual philosophy is “the more the merrier,” read on for some fun positions that’ll make your next foursome nothing short of memorable.
Rebecca Strong is a Boston-based freelance writer currently writing about Sex & Relationships at Men's Health. In her free time, she enjoys generous pours of Marlborough sauvignon blanc, true crime podcasts, and writing music (under her stage name, BEX). Rebecca is a graduate of Emerson College (BA) and The Boston Conservatory at Berklee (MFA). She has also covered health and wellness, fitness, travel, and lifestyle for Insider, AskMen, Healthline, Health.com, Clean Plates, StyleCaster, Eat This Not That, Best Life, and Bustle.
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